Grieving – Is it Allowed?

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Guest Blogger: Dr. Daisy Sutherland


Grieving – Is it Allowed



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If you are like many parents you have lost a family pet in the past or may be going through this sad situation now.  Do you grieve over the loss? Do you allow your children to grieve? 

Grieving is a natural process that must be allowed to happen but not taken to an extreme.  What do I mean by extreme?  Now, first let me tell you that I am an animal lover, and at the present time have 2 dogs.  If I could have more I would, but my husband would probably move out, so that is not an option.  We have lost pets through out the years, from fish, to hamsters, to guinea pigs to dogs.  We have grieved because they are not only our pets but also part of the family.

So, yes we had the procession, funeral and eulogy for all the pets, including the fish, but we did not take it further than that.  Soon after, we replaced the pet with another and all was fine.  Some people however will go to an extreme in order not to face the grieving process.  Some will allow their pets to go through chemotherapy only to prolong the process and the life of the pet.  Again, I repeat, I am an animal lover, but because I love them I refuse to prolong a life that is inevitable. 

Some actually go as far as allowing the death and building a temple for their pets.  They refuse to really accept the death and continue to keep them close, even if they are not alive.  Hmmmm, what do you do?

We allow our children to grieve and explain that just as everything lives, they also will die.  It is never a happy occasion when someone or something dies, but we learn to accept it and continue to live.  I know it may sound harsh, but it is a lesson that we must teach our children.  Of course I am talking about animals and not humans here, because that is much different although the grieving process is completely necessary and essential.

The subject here is grieving over animals or pets.  We as parents must take those moments to teach our children as well as comfort them.  Many won’t understand but that is when our knowledge comes into play.  We must be aware of their feelings, show them understanding and allow them to grieve.  Share that this too, shall pass and when the time comes to replace the pet, then that can be done. {Which of course is a choice and not the rule}

Grieving is part of life and as long as we take the time to share those feelings and not stifle them; we can all live happy and healthy lives.  Do you grieve over the loss of a pet? It is healthy to grieve…share that with your family.

Dr. Daisy Sutherland is the Founder/CEO of Dr. Mommy Online and she enjoys sharing her knowledge on health and nutrition and whole body wellness. She is a Doctor of Chiropractic by profession, wife to a loving and supportive husband and home school mom to 5 beautiful children.

Dr. Mommy is a published author, speaker, and radio personality that devotes her time educating the public on the importance of nutrition, and overall health and wellness. Dr. Mommy’s Mission is to inspire, motivate and encourage you to be the best you can possibly be for your health, wealth and sanity.


Thanks you Dr. Daisy for sharing and know it will help many.

Carol Giambri,

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Michele M Tremblay February 23, 2011 at 6:18 pm

I love my dogs and have lost many from the time I was a little girl. The feelings of loss are so profound when a pet dies. It’s important to grieve, feel the feelings and move on. All part of the circle of life.
Thanks for the thoughtful post.

Carol Giambri February 23, 2011 at 6:39 pm

Thank Michele for your wonderful insight. Owning for over 40 years I feel I have been through several dog losses, but most lived a long time–still a loss is a loss and all have been GREAT memories.

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